Divorce is traumatic. What kind of shape you’ll be in after all the legal issues are resolved is something we don’t know. It’s going to leave a “mark.”

We often talk to our clients about taking care of their mental health during – and after – the divorce process.

Let’s look at what happens to you physically during a trauma:

  • Your blood pressure rises
  • Your heart rate increases
  • You may experience an increase in sweating and loss (or gain) in appetite
  • You may have trouble sleeping or concentrating

The trouble with divorce or family court is that the trauma isn’t confined to a particular period of time. It’s prolonged. While most of us are not in immediate threat of bodily harm, going through a massive life change that affects your financial and emotional security can wreak havoc on your mental health.

You may be at risk for depression, anxiety, and even post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD.

“Well, that’s going to leave a mark.”

So what can you do?

Life is about pillars and silos. We have our work life, our home life, friends, community, church and money: each deserves attention and care. One of the most valuable things you can do is slow down and take on less. Make choices that eliminate as many unnecessary tasks as possible. Look for ways to conserve your resources in terms of time, energy and money.

And remember to get help:

  • Reach out to friends and family for support
  •  Join a support group
  • Get professional help. A counselor can be of tremendous assistance during this time.